Two teen age black men, were selling these roses they handmade from Palm tree leaves. At first I declined to buy but then I said, they could have been selling dope or robbing people but they took a gift taught to them by their grandmother and started a business. Think again next time you decide to NOT support a young black man on the corner selling something else besides drugs.
Ok! Ok! I’m THAT parent that wants to save my children from everything. But recently I have been fighting that urge so that they can be prepared for the real world.
My most recent challenge is my daughter’s field trip. My mission is to teach her responsibility. This afternoon I instructed her to complete her field trip form and then I’d sign my signature. I just discovered an incomplete field trip form on the counter. My first reaction was to place the form by her cell phone for her to see in the morning. But then…..the OTHER MOTHER (#CORALINE) kicked in and thought, what a great lesson she would learn if I left the form where it was and gave her the opportunity to see it herself and complete before she left tomorrow. So I did. I left the form where it was.
Worse case, she’ll forget, leave the form on the counter, call mom from school to bring her the form. But boy won’t she be surprised tomorrow, to get $1 less than her allowance. My fee for my gas and my time. Welcome to the real world.
Remember a hard lesson today for your child could mean the difference in their success tomorrow.
So my studio session today is a little challenging, so I thought I’d take a break to blog.
One of the GREATEST gifts we can give ourselves and our children is the permission to “feel.”
It’s funny how, when children feel hurt and cry, we quickly say, “Stop that crying, before I give you something to cry about.” THAT HAS GOT TO BE THE DUMBEST STATEMENT WE AS PARENTS CAN SAY TO OUR CHILDREN. They are crying because they ALREADY have something to cry about. Geesh! It is my personal belief that God gave emotions to us as a gift. The emotion of joy, disappointment, love, excitement, frustration, fear and yes even anger. One of the things we have been teaching our children is to acknowledge how they really feel and how to respond “responsibly.” That is still something I’m learning even at age 38. Boy how much further I would be had I learned that earlier in life.
So if you feel upset right now, feel upset!
If you feel frustrated right now, feel frustrated!
If you feel happy right now, feel happy.
If you feel love right now, feel love.
Then process what you feel and respond properly. Your brain and your heart will thank you for it.
Alright, back to the studio!